Silly Girls~

girls are really silly. hmm.. perhaps stupid is a more suitable word.

Girls in general are very trusting. (or issit me? *ponders*)

we tend to trust ppl easily, and confide our problems to these ppl..

which is a HUGE mistake.

we tend to do this more often when we're upset/feeling down.

Many times, i have confided in the wrong people.

People, whom at that time, seem so trustworthy, even though i dunno them well.

It jus seemed so appropriate at that time. And at that time, i really totally believe that they wont tell..

I think i even told them secrets that perhaps my good friends or family dont even know.

Thinking back, and putting myself into the shoes of those 'trustworthy' poeple, I believe i would have leaked out the secret. (but mind you, i'm great at keeping secrets...) Afterall, these people arent impt in my life, tell others their secret, dont make a difference to their lives wad, right?

Let me jus illustrate this point with a scenario. Imagine that you r 2 months pregnant. Being a student, you definitely dont have the finances to start a family. You decided to abort it. Feeling very distressed and disturbed, you felt that you need to talk to someone, but definitely not ur close frens or family. They probably cannot take the shock. Then came along a friend of yours.. not close... perhaps just a tutorial mate whom you occasionally have lunch with, or it could be your hall friend. They seemed so concerened and nice.. you cant help but blurt out the truth because you think they will sympathise with you and understand your plight.

BUT MIND YOU, THIS PERSON DEFINITELY WILL TELL SOMEONE. CONFIRM + CHOP + GUARANTEE. This person may not tell your gd frens or anyone related to you, but he or she will definitely tell his/her gd fren.. and the conversation probably goes this way:

你懂那个XX hor，neh我的tutorial那个lor。。 蛮sweet的。。 她pregnant了 leh! Can you believe it? Ya! she actually 跟我讲咯！but你不要跟别人讲leh!

Your life has been utterly ruined by this person. I'm not trying to say that this person is very bad to leak out your secret. Chances are she has no ill intentions, she jus need to let it off her chest, exactly the same reason why you told her your secret.

Or you may think that it's okay to tell someone whom you dunno, wont affect you wad.. but imagine tt she sees you in sch.. she looks at you differently. And if she sees you when she's tog with some of her friends, it is highly likely she is gg to tell them your secret also. She's not your friend, she's not obliged to keep tt secret! Den her friends tell their friends... and you may never know.. one day.. tt lil secret of yours could reach your closed ones' ears.. *shudders*

So, what i am trying to put across is that you should always tell your secrets to ppl whom you hav trusted all your life. and make sure tt they are long time frens. otherwise keep your mouth shut. If you know a secret, keep it to yourself.. dont go ard telling ppl.. even if it's ppl whom you r close to/ppl who wont ever know who ur fren is..you wont want others to do the same to you.