Stop telling others to cherish what they have
At 22 years old, I've read tonnes of forwarded emails that talk about how a person only learnt how to cherish his/her loved ones after they have left them. And how we should, you know, jus run up to our loved one and hug him/her and exclaim "I love you!" Loosely translated, you mean "I don't want to wait till you die liao den say that cos by then you probably cant hear me!"
I thought, and still think, it is outrageously ridiculous. I mean, can u imagine ur mom/dad/friends just coming up to you and say that 3 magic words? you probably will think they are mad.
Well, no doubt the intention of those emails are supposed to make u realise that you should learn to cherish what you have. However, I've come to realise that learning to cherish what we have, people seem to only see what others have, and reprimand them for not cherishing what they have!
I've seen so many people, who only knows how to envy what the others have, instead of what they have. Like, I envy how some of my friends are so lovey-dovey with their other half, and how well their bds treat them.. And i start to complain and whine abt how fate is unfair to me for giving me a bf who is not a SNAG.
That was in the past though. I've been in a rs for more than 4 years, and I daresay that this thinking of mine made me feel like i was an unhappy person. Something as simple as my bf falling aslp on the bus and not talking to me or holding my hand makes me upset. I will think "Why he like that one? Why he cares more abt slping than talking to me? Why he never think for me? He doesnt know I will be bored if he falls aslp meh?" Thinking back, I am so so ridiculous.
I was young n naive back then. I expect him to know EXACTLY how i feel and to understand me. Afterall, our hearts need to beat as one before we are really compatible right?! and my greatest wish was to know whatever that he was thinking. Whether he was happy with me.. what he likes abt me.. what goes on in his mind when he is angry with me.. blah blah blah. I even wanted to know whether I am that important to him afterall.
In a nutshell, I just wasn't happy in that relationship. I expected to much from my bf. I felt he doesnt know how to cherish me. Every wrong that he did, I will remember it. But every right that he did, every sweet lil gesture, I jus brush it off.
Of course now I am a changed person. I learnt to cherish what I have, instead of envying what others have.
Now reflect on yourself. And stop envying others. But I doubt u will get it lar.
I thought, and still think, it is outrageously ridiculous. I mean, can u imagine ur mom/dad/friends just coming up to you and say that 3 magic words? you probably will think they are mad.
Well, no doubt the intention of those emails are supposed to make u realise that you should learn to cherish what you have. However, I've come to realise that learning to cherish what we have, people seem to only see what others have, and reprimand them for not cherishing what they have!
I've seen so many people, who only knows how to envy what the others have, instead of what they have. Like, I envy how some of my friends are so lovey-dovey with their other half, and how well their bds treat them.. And i start to complain and whine abt how fate is unfair to me for giving me a bf who is not a SNAG.
That was in the past though. I've been in a rs for more than 4 years, and I daresay that this thinking of mine made me feel like i was an unhappy person. Something as simple as my bf falling aslp on the bus and not talking to me or holding my hand makes me upset. I will think "Why he like that one? Why he cares more abt slping than talking to me? Why he never think for me? He doesnt know I will be bored if he falls aslp meh?" Thinking back, I am so so ridiculous.
I was young n naive back then. I expect him to know EXACTLY how i feel and to understand me. Afterall, our hearts need to beat as one before we are really compatible right?! and my greatest wish was to know whatever that he was thinking. Whether he was happy with me.. what he likes abt me.. what goes on in his mind when he is angry with me.. blah blah blah. I even wanted to know whether I am that important to him afterall.
In a nutshell, I just wasn't happy in that relationship. I expected to much from my bf. I felt he doesnt know how to cherish me. Every wrong that he did, I will remember it. But every right that he did, every sweet lil gesture, I jus brush it off.
Of course now I am a changed person. I learnt to cherish what I have, instead of envying what others have.
Now reflect on yourself. And stop envying others. But I doubt u will get it lar.
posted by Tweety Bird at 5:49 PM
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